Peonies and Permanency

Pink Peony

a pink Peony

As a native North Carolinian, I appreciate publications that highlight the wonderful aspects of my home state.  One such pub is Our State magazine.

I recently enjoyed reading the article, “The Peony Cure,” about Ricardo and Suzanne Fernandez’s Wildcat Ridge Farm in Clyde, N.C. and the peonies that bloom there during a season that is extremely temporary – it lasts only three weeks (if you’re reading this post today, April 29, and live in N.C., there’s still time for you to make the trip to the farm to see the peonies in full bloom.)

The peonies of Wildcat Ridge Farm are beautiful yet temporary things.  Do you think the temporary quality of their bloom life enhances their beauty?

It seems that so many of us experience mere moments of incredible beauty and joy in life – moments that can never be relived…moments such as hearing your firstborn’s initial cry.

What beautiful but short-lived things have you experienced in the world?  Do you admire those things, or do you resent the fact that those things of beauty could not last?

Also, have you experienced beautiful but short-lived relationships?  If so, do you believe that those relationships were like the peonies by nature and meant to be temporary?

In the 1988 tune Circle, American singer-songwriter Edie Brickell sang the lyric, “Everything is temporary anyway.”  Do you agree?

In your opinion, which things of beauty and otherwise in your life are temporary and which are lasting? And, are you making a permanent mark in this world?

The Land of the Free and Lost

Runaway train

a Runaway train

The issue of lost children resurfaced in America again this week as national media coverage centered on a more than three decades old missing child case, the case of Etan Patz.

Etan was just six years old when he disappeared on May 15, 1979, about a block away from his home in the SoHo neighborhood of New York City, and he has never been found.  Etan was one of the first missing children whose face was shown on thousands of milk cartons in an effort to locate him – a technique that became widely used by those searching for missing children in the years that followed.

Do you remember seeing the images of missing children displayed on milk cartons? I remember the images and recognizing the disturbing irony of a milk carton as a communications channel.

I mean…what’s more synonymous with the apple-pie, wholesome view of America than milk?  Yet, the images of missing children on milk cartons seemed to blatantly run counter to that image and, instead, pointed to an ugly, unclean and hidden side of America.  The images silently screamed to all of us in America at our breakfast tables, “we don’t live in a pretty, clean milk-and-cookies sort of world.  This may be the land of the free, but this is also the land of the lost.”

It’s devastating to consider the tragedy of stolen youth and the number of young lives being snuffed out by sick individuals in our country every year.  Today, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children estimates that more than 700,000 children are reported missing each year.

It’s also equally harsh to consider how many of our youth are intentionally lost and the harsh realities that drive many of our youth to claim the title of intentional runaways.  In 1994, the band Soul Asylum released a track titled, “Runaway Train,” that earned the band a Grammy for best rock song of that year.  The video for the popular tune began by highlighting a disturbing statistic, “There are over one million youth lost on the streets of America.”  That stat has continued to grow.  For example,  in 2010, the National Runaway Switchboard estimated: “on any given night there are approximately 1.3 million homeless youth living unsupervised on the streets, in abandoned buildings, with friends or with strangers.”

What about you?  How do you feel about the lost in America?  Do you think their stories get told often enough, or do you think their stories surface from time to time in our national psyche but are generally hidden away like a national secret?

Also, have you ever been intentionally lost?  Have you ever wanted a ticket for a runaway train? If so, what kept you from running?

The Constitution and Your Pennies

US Penny image

US Penny image

This post is part of a 2012 monthly series of MySheCave.com posts on the topic of the U.S. Constitution.

It’s tax time for those of us in the United States.  Do you know which Article of the U.S. Constitution gives Congress the right to collect taxes?

The answer is Article I.  To be specific, Section 8 of Article I states that “Congress shall have Power To lay and collect Taxes, Duties, Imposts and Excises…” as well as to pay debts for the common defense and general welfare of our country.

Since the reality of paying taxes is a heavy one for so many, I’d like to raise some light-hearted questions about, in Article I Section 8 terms, “the current Coin of the United States.”

What is your favorite U.S. coin?  Does holding a penny, nickel, quarter or dime make you most happy?  Or, do you pay (pun intended) more attention to your debit and credit cards and think the usage of coins has become somewhat antiquated?  In this age of e-commerce, how much loose change do you keep in your pockets or purse these days?

When it comes to coinage, I remember being taught the value of coins as a kid and playing with a coin-sorting machine similar to the Money Miser Coin Sorter, currently being offered on Amazon.  I also recall being given a Susan B. Anthony silver dollar by my parents back in 1979 (Susan B. Anthony was the first non-fictitious woman shown on circulating U.S. coinage).

Over the years, I’ve heard countless people speak using idioms that include the word, “penny,” such as, “That costs a pretty penny” and “A penny saved is a penny earned.”  What about you?  Can you recall any other idioms containing the names of coins?  I’d give a penny for your thoughts. 🙂

And, back to the heavier subject of taxes, remember that our Constitution requires that taxes be collected and the words of one of our Founding Fathers, Benjamin Franklin, who wrote, “In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.

Unconventional Pink and Greens

Ping Bubba Driver US Presswire image

Ping's Bubba Driver

Do you consider yourself to be a person who generally appreciates social conventions, or do you enjoy instances when the social norm, unlike 007’s favorite martini, gets shaken and stirred?

If you are one of the latter set, when do you think it’s most advantageous to exhibit an nonconventional approach?  During competitive times?  During warfare, maybe?

At the start of 2012, one professional golfer joined countless other men who have in recent years bucked a long-held, Western social and fashion norm that “real men don’t wear pink.”

This particular golfer has not only worn pink-accented golf attire, but, in January of this year, he went so far as to literally bring the color of pink into the game, when he began using a new pink-headed driver.

Say what you’d like about the importance of sticking to tradition, but, today, at least in the world of golf, the gods seemed to smiling on one of the norm-breakers.

The professional golfer with the pink driver is named Bubba Watson.  And, after winning the 2012 Masters Tournament today using his pink-headed driver, he’s now one of the prestigious few golfers who are able to don one of the game’s most traditional green jackets.

Forget about real men not wearing pink.  At least when it comes to the game of golf, champions of men can wear pink and green.

Memorable Fragrances

Chanel No. 5 parfum

basenotes.net image of Chanel No. 5

In my earlier post, “Reaching Inspired Locations,” I commented, “music in general can be ‘an aero plane’ that elevates listeners to another world.”

Today, I want to make a similar point about fragrances.

Have you ever played with Scratch and Sniff cards and stickers?  I recall doing so in the days of my youth and remember how my mind would immediately go towards the idea of a certain object after scratching and sniffing a particular scent.

What about you?

Do you believe that fragrances, like music, have a transport-you-to-another-place-like quality?  Here are five quick examples that, for me, point to that reality:

  1. Chanel No. 5 – Almost every time I encounter Coco Chanel’s most-famous fragrance, I feel the warmth of my mother’s love and remember her hugs before and after attending cocktail parties in my eastern N.C. hometown.
  2. New Cans of Tennis Balls – Often when I open a brand-new can of tennis balls and catch a whiff of the “new” scent, my mind flashes to images of my twin sister and me playing matches in the summer heat on the courts of our youth.
  3. Rose-scented lotions – When I smell any rose-scented otions, I often think of my maternal grandmother (she used rose-scented Olay products).
  4. Honeysuckle candles – Each time I smell a honeysuckle-scented candle, I remember being about six years old and sucking honey from the flowers that grew on a honeysuckle bush in my parents’ backyard.
  5. Bain de Soleil Orange Gelee Sunscreen – Talk about transportation.  Immediately after opening a tube of this sunscreen, originally developed in France in 1925 after Coco Chanel started the fashion trend of sporting sun-bronzed skin, I return to the summers of the late 1970s, a time period when the dangers of sun tanning were less well-known, and sun worshippers in my hometown also used Johnson’s Baby Oil.

So, what are some of the fragrances that bring back memories for you?   And, does fragrance or music take you farther down memory lane?